I’ve been fortunate enough to grow up with a loving and supportive mom. I don’t take that lightly as I know how much my mom has helped shape me in to the person that I am today. My mom has taught me so many important life lessons throughout my upbringing. I’m lucky to have a role model like my mom. In light of my mom’s upcoming birthday, I wanted to share life lessons my mom has taught me in the hopes that others will find them equally useful!
Treat everyone with kindness.
My mom taught myself and my siblings this adamantly when growing up. As I’ve gotten older I’ve especially learned how important this is to live by. You never know what others are going through in their own lives and you’ll never truly know how your kindness can affect someone. I’ve had my own fair share of experiences with this. I can recall a few times where I was in a bad mood or feeling down on myself and simply having someone show me kindness or smile at me as we crossed paths was enough to change my whole day around and lift my spirits.
It takes strength to express and feel emotion.
There’s a common misconception that feeling and expressing your emotions makes you weak. It’s actually the total opposite! It takes a lot of strength to feel your emotions and express them. My mom has always encouraged me to express how I feel. When growing up we always talked about our feelings in my family and we still do. My mom was largely instrumental in helping me develop my emotional intelligence. Any time I was feeling out of sorts and had a hard time expressing what I was feeling she would always walk me through what I was feeling and would talk with me about what I was feeling. It takes time and practice becoming aware of your emotions and expressing them. It’s a great skill to develop, after all, they say emotional intelligence is a greater predictor of success in your career than IQ is (Forbes)!
How other people treat you is a reflection of them.
I am an incredibly sensitive person and I often take things personally. This leads to a lot of hurt feelings. Growing up and even now my mom always reminds me that if someone is being mean or unkind to me that it has everything to do with them. If you’ve done nothing to someone and they choose to mistreat you, it reflects how they internally feel about themselves. I had an experience where someone was continuously mean to me out of nowhere and later on we became friends. Once we were friends this person admitted that they previously had felt threatened by me (despite there being zero reason to be) and that’s why they were mean to me. It makes life easier once you start to recognize that the way others treat you says everything about who they are as a person.
Trust your gut.
There’s something unexplainable about gut reactions. My mom always taught me to trust my intuition and not to doubt it. She always told me with my gut reactions that I was feeling a certain way for an important reason. It’s very rare when my gut feelings are wrong. It’s important to recognize those feelings when they present themselves and to listen to yourself and how you’re feeling. Nine times out of ten you won’t regret listening to your gut. It’s the times that you don’t trust your gut feelings that you may regret.
Always stick up for yourself and what you believe in.
This was instilled in me from a very early age. Not only was this something my mom preached, but it’s something she has continued to demonstrate my whole life. Sticking up for yourself and the things you believe in can be very hard to do. Especially if you’re like me, someone who likes to keep the peace and not rock the boat. I’ve become especially good at standing up for myself when I’m being mistreated. It takes practice being comfortable with standing up for yourself or standing up for your views. It’s incredibly important. It’s something that can be done in a polite way which I’ve come to learn. Over time I’ve learned to stand up to people who have mistreated me, negotiate pay raises, stand up for those without a voice and to support beliefs that I’m passionate about.
I’ve always valued having my mom’s support and guidance throughout life. These life lessons have helped shape me in to the person I am today. She’s helped develop me in to a strong independent woman. These lessons take practice to form them in to habits over time. I find them very useful and they help make me a better person, I hope you find them helpful too!
P.S. The man in the photos is my equally amazing father! I’m sure I’ll share some of his wisdom at some point or another on my blog. 🙂
One other area my mom has been tremendously helpful: photography! My mom is an amazing photographer and taught me these four simple rules for taking better photographs.
What are some lessons you’ve learned from the important women in your life?